Although it is uncommon for people to say that they have toxic family members, it happens most of the time in family set up. The toxic family member can be your sibling your parent or immediate relative and it is their actions such as manipulation, neediness criticism, jealousy that may cause stress on you. Below are some of the signs that you need to keep an eye on to easily identify toxic relative.
The inability to feel comfortable and happy when having a sitting with any of your family member shows that there is something wrong. It is the words that they say that will hurt you and you’ll develop sad feelings whenever you are around them. Some of the feelings such as guilty conscious, feeling ashamed had regretful and depressed around a family member shows that it is not worthy of your time to spend around them.
When you always find excuses not to stay with any of your family member then it might show that they are having a role to play with your depression. The family members are the fabric of any individual and it should be up lifting and energizing to meet them. When during most of the other days you do not attend any of the functions due to presence of a family member then it can be a sign that you’re having problems with them.
Mature individual should be able to handle most of their problems and take care of themselves. Any family member that fails to take care of their problems and who wants to be handled as children may make you feel overwhelmed.
Emotional drains is not a reserve for only romantic relationship as they can also be witnessed in the family relationships. When after talking with your family member you feel like you are exhausted, unhappy and emotionally unstable then you need to think twice about the relationship. When you cannot come up with concrete topic and only major on the negatives during your talks then you will definitely feel drained.
When you experience the above highlighted feelings then it is a sign that your family member is the one causing your problems. Sometimes you might think that your family members are the one causing problems but in the real case you could be the toxic family member. Your well-being is necessary and you need to be honest about the situation, discuss it and come up with solution such as creating boundaries or warning them against introducing any topics that you do not like.